With a 2 month old in tow, I didn't think I'd be posting here again about D who is now a bit over 2 years old. But our sleep problems seem to have resurfaced.
When I became pregnant with M, we decided that we would move D out of the cot early so he wouldn't feel displaced and had enough time to get used to his bed. He was probably a year and half old when we moved him to a single bed and he did really well. We dismantled the cot and moved it to the garage so there was well and truly enough time for him to forget about it.
Around 2 to 3 months ago he figured out that he could get out of his bed. The first night he got out of bed around 30 times before he finally settled back down. Ever since there hasn't been a night where he hasn't gotten out of bed at least a couple of times before settling down to sleep.
We thought we were making progress in that in the last week or so he'd only get out of bed once or twice before settling. The last two nights however have been horrendous. Tonight he screamed almost non-stop from 8.30 to 10.30pm until finally my husband just went in and laid down next to him to get him to sleep.
I rang Karitane for advice around a month ago and they suggested that we do pretty much what we've been doing: just take him back to bed and say "go back to bed, it's time to sleep now". Eventually he'd get bored and/or get the message and he'd be going straight to sleep at night, or at least not calling out for us or getting out of bed.
Well, we've been doing that consistently now for two months and we're still doing it. Tonight was absolutely heartbreaking.
He has quite time starting from his bath at around 7.30 followed by storytime and then "sleep". Any ideas on how we can get D back into his sleep routine and settled at night?
I think D has forgotten how to sleep! He is almost 18 months old and has been fine for so long in getting himself to sleep at night. After his bath and his bedtime routine, we just put him down in his bed and he's asleep without a peep, usually without waking once until he's up for the day.
The last few nights he's been waking up several times during the night and it's taken him longer and longer to actually settle into sleep early in the night. Last night, as soon as we left the room he started crying. We tried controlled crying but after 40 or so minutes (going in at regular intervals) I couldn't bear to hear him cry anymore and I let him hold my hand until he fell asleep.
He had the flu last week but slept mostly fine while he was ill so I'm not sure if it's that. He's been super clingy for the last month or two but it didn't seem to have affected his sleep until the last few nights. It's heartbreaking hearing him scream "MUMMY!!" until I go in.
I'm not sure if I should try controlled crying again. We tried it last night but I caved. I'm worried that now that he's older and understands more, he gets scared when he calls out for us and we don't go to him right away.
I hope it's okay for me to post this here. I'm a filmmaker and a dad to a seven year old girl.
My buddy and I have produced a soothing and gentle baby video (similar to the Baby Einstein
series but in a different style) called Jack, the Cuddly Dog
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Please come by and take a look at it! When my girl was a baby I would often do her 2 am feeding, and watch TV while I did it. I wish I had had this video, or something like it when we did those midnight feedings.
We produced this video because we believe there is a need for a more "organic" and gentle video that has beautifully played piano instead of canned-sounding synthesizer. Another point of difference with other videos is that ours features a loveable dog character that children adore. He was hand-drawn by one of the animators who worked on Blues Clues
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You can buy the DVD on our website or on Amazon.com (all 5-star reviews there!). Thanks!
D has been in his own room for a bit over two weeks now and has been doing really well. Despite almost a week of illness during which I fed him to sleep, re-establishing independent sleeping turned out to be quite easy this time around.
Within a minute of putting him to bed, he's asleep. The problem is that lately as soon as he realises that we're putting him in his cot, he SCREAMS! The screaming lasts no more than around 30 seconds before he calms down and falls asleep. But it's still pretty disconcerting.
Any ideas on why this is happening? Do you think he'll eventually grow out of it? (Obviously he will, eventually - just wondering whether we should expect this to be a continued part of babyhood or whether it will disappear any time soon)
D has slept in his own cot since he was born - but his cot is in our room, right next to my side of the bed.
This weekend (at around 9 and a half months old), we're moving him into his own room. I'm really nervous about how he'll adjust.
Any tips on easing the transition?
My baby does not use her crib for sleeping...but we won't cosleep forever...so I've got a question for anyone who can help. The crib says "Easily converts from crib to toddler bed" ... but how? It's supposed to go from a crib to a bed (day bed I guess) and I can't figure out how one would do this. It's this crib
. Thanks so much!
(x-posted to baby_sleep
, and fluffymamas
A week ago I started trying to wean Sterling off needing to eat at night. Then I was hoping to also get him to learn to get himself back to sleep. Well, the first part is accomplished. I've stopped nursing him back to sleep when he wakes up. Also it's taking a lot less time to get him to sleep in the first place. I was putting him down to sleep between 9 and 10. Now between 8 and 8:30 I've started up a routine: change him into pajamas, brush his teeth, read him a story, then turn off the lights and hold and rock him until he puts his head down on my shoulder. Then a few turns of laying him down in his crib and patting his back until he falls asleep. Around tuesday or Wednesday I was almost ready to admit defeat, since he was waking up so often. Then we figured out the culprit, he developed infections in both his ears. Wenesday daycare called me saying he had temperature and his ear was oozing. Poor baby, his eardrum ruptured. No wonder he wasn't sleeping well! But now he's on antibiotics, and feeling much better. so when he wakes up during the night, it takes me only 10 minutes or so to get himto fall back to sleep.
Hopefully on the way to getting him to sleep better.
First, allow me to set the scene. My daughter is 13.5 months old and awful in every facet of sleep--will not nap except in a moving car, fights night-time sleep--often requiring a long drive before she settles enough to sleep, wakes up for feedings 3-4 times a night, and gets up early in the mornings to boot. Often grumpy and fussy, probably due to sleep deprivation. I know its making me grumpy.
I've tried so many things--baths, unvariable routine, music, patting, trying hard to make sure she gets enough food during the day, rocking, getting my husband to attempt to soothe her, etc., etc. ad nauseum. But nothing seemed to help.
Well, last weekend was crazy and my daughter got to bed muuuch later than her typical 7-7:30. But I noticed that she seemed to go down much easier than normally. She didn't scream or fuss, just babbled a bit and drifted off. So I thought I would try turning the parenting books' advice about early bedtimes on its head and move her bedtime back an hour.
It may be too ealry to trumpet success, but for two night's running my girl has gone to sleep with little fuss. AND....last night she only woke up for a feeding one time. She slept 8:30 to 2:00, and then until 6:00. I am in heaven.
So, if you've tried everything else, maybe try moving the bedtime later and see if it helps.
I found this article
on the parenting magazine site. It's almost exactly the problem we have with Sterling. I think I'm going to ask to take off the 30th, 31st and 1st from work so I can spend the sleepless nights trying this with Sterling. I hope it works as well for me as the author of the article.x-posted to purpleallison
I don't think there is really any help out there for me, so maybe this will just be a vent post! I was so happy to run into this community!
Basics: I'm Molly. I have a 8 month old son Peyton. I work 3:30-12am Mon-Fri (which is why its essential for me to get sleep, I'm on a phone all night when I'd probably be home sleeping).
Sleep issue:My son started out a nightmare of a sleeper. Waking every hour for the first few months old his life. Then he settled into a wake 2-3 times a night. Bed at 10, wake at 9am. That slowed to sleep through 9pm-8am. Then he was back to waking 2-4 times a night starting a couple months ago. Then recently he started going to bed at 8 and waking at 7:30, which was fine... really. I got to bed around 1, I in my zombie (hardly wake up at all) state got through the 2-4 night time feedings with the help of my husband. But NOW, he goes to bed at 8pm and is completely up for the day between 5am-6:30am. And now I'm so completely sleep deprived I'm about to lose my job. He's a great napper for the most part. He goes back down for a nap about 2 hours after he wakes for 1.5-2 hours, but the lack of deep sleep is crushing me. I always go back to bed when he naps. But its not cutting it. And he's still getting up 2-4 times between 1am-5am. His long sleep stretch is from 8pm-12:30am which is when I'm not even home!
Things we've tried: The doctor said to push his bedtime later, take out a nap, and feed him more predictably throughout the day. NONE of that worked. We find denying him sleep only makes him get up earlier.
We've tried letting him cry. But it BREAKS my heart to hear him cry for even 30 secs when I'm only an arms reach away and know how to comfort him. Besides, even controlled CIO didn't work. Once he's decided its wake up time, he means it. No food, comfort, or anything will get him back to bed.
So... now what? ANYONE feel my pain or know what I'm going through? *sigh* I really don't want to have to quit my job, or find another one. If I worked a earlier shift it would probably be worse. I'd have to get up and go to work with no sleep instead of getting to nap with him. I thought at 8 months things were suppose to be much better!!!!!